What would make you feel better right now?

I am sorry you had that experience on this site. I hope and want the same.

It's interesting, when I read what violinsounds has written, I felt he meant that he hopes and wants what you want too, owais, as you wrote: ” I honestly need people to be honest and true. I respect honesty and I follow honesty and so I deserve honesty”

And then you replied : “why you want to experience ignorance and decieve of yourself” and I realized again, that two people reading the same words, can derive completely different meanings from them.

Owais, I like the blog picture you have with this blog, as Mahatma Gandhi, who faced so much opposition in his life, showed us how to deal with it, with such compassion, high intelligence and perseverance, that he changed the negativity in people around him- not in all, but in many.

I think that is what we are all trying to do, sometimes well and sometimes badly. If someone has cheated you in some way, on this website, please let the Team that runs Gaia, know about it.

Owais,
Meenakshi is right…you misinterpreted the words…He means he wants and hopes for the same honesty as you do.
And yes, do report this to the Gaia Team (or leave a note with Siona).

Be Careful. Even here.

Dear Owais,

Yes, sorry I didn't make myself clearer. I meant to say that ,I  too, want people to be real, and honest as they can be. I want to be myself, be true to myself and others. When someone is being dishonest, hiding their self from me or pretending, I can feel hurt….. Saying that, I know that I can be a “performer” at times without realizing I am doing it. And sometimes I can catch myself “performing” in an attempt to make contact with people for a genuine reason. But perhaps that is different than pretending. ….This is an insightful discussion.

Namaste,
Tom

In my opinion I dont believe that other peoples honesty has anything at all to do with you/me/us.  It is soley on the growth and awareness of the individual portraying the virtue or lack thereof ; Even if someone is lying right to your face. You are only cheated if you are expecting something. Try just giving yourself honestly with no attachments and with no expectations. Enjoy your NOWs and enjoy your lessons. Smile.

From another soul just trying to get through this life peacefully.

Owais, I remember the first time I got a message: “Everyone around you is a mirror of yourself.” We can see in others, what we have within us.

So, whenever I find something that disturbs me, the best way to handle it, is to look within, and see what is really bothering me; and then ask the other person to clarify what they have said.

Though we are all writing in English on Gaia, we are all from different countries, and use language differently. None of us is perfect; as they say, ';we are all perfectly imperfectly perfect.”

So, why not look at people with compassion, realize that everyone is trying to live as well as they can, and that sometimes we show our good qualities, and at other times, our not-so-good ones. Sometimes we are clear in what we mean, and at other times, we are not. This does not mean people are hypocritical; it may just mean, they are trying to be better than they feel they are.

And as Felicia points out, even if someone is trying to cheat us, if we can keep ourselves clear, and calm, and see that they are lying; we need not get cheated; and perhaps can help the other person to overcome their fear of the truth.

As Gandhiji said, Satyameva jayate. We have to help it along!

I also remember the story of the wolves. That's a good reminder too!

Owais, hello……..unfortunately life is about each and every one of our own personal journeys - a spiritual being within a physical reality……encompassing this process is the human aspect of some,  that feel they HAVE TO to do or be someone they are not, in order to be accepted….

I refer to this as the MASK syndrome, whereby one lives a facade in life, pretending to be or say something that is not truth to who they are……

..I would like to say, despite your experience, to  you - a big HELLO!!!!  I am new to this site  but would like to add, that I am HONEST,  upfront and a realist……if you ever need to share, feel free…….:) 

I couldn't help but think that the misunderstanding, the miscommunication that needed clarification here in this thread, is probably partly the problem of people stating one thing but really coming across another way.

I can't speak for the entire world.  The truth is never pretty.  And most people claim to want to know the truth but…can't really handle the truth.  If you want truth, what is the way to it?  By being truthful yourself?  And what if your version of the truth doesn't match up to another's?  Does that make their truth any less real or less truthful than yours?

Who gets to be the grand determinator of what is truth and what is the final truth?  Be your own compass – look within and find out what you can live with. 

A wise person told me once that perhaps because I hold myself to such high standards, that I was setting myself up for disappointment with others who may agree but not necessarily practice as consistently as I did.  Imagine, setting myself up for disappointment?

I wondered, should I take this as an invitation to lower my standards or to be more understanding of humanity?  We are not perfect.  We make mistakes.  We fall.  We fail.  But we get up and keep moving, keep living, keep trying, keep hoping, keep reaching out to connect.  For what else is there?

You say you want truth.  I wonder what truth it is you are seeking and whether you believe it can be found in another human being or within yourself.  If you find it within yourself, the rest is just icing on the cake.

“Namaste Felicia,

I think - the best way for people to live is to focus on self-development rather than the pursuit of material wealth. I do always invite others to try to concentrate more on friendships and a sense of true community, I feel that this is the best way for people to grow together as a populace. my actions lived up to this and I think this is through we can commune with universe and realise oneness. Hence, honesty has to do a lot with connectedness, oneness ( commune with universe ).
it is very easy indeed to ignore those who are repulsive to you,however is really the weakest form of oneself and to me it is a kind of vice. I do not expect anything from anyone but i want people shall reveal what they are it was just merely a point out by me but in many ways my friends your comments are just showing clearly what I want to convet cannot get by you. I am sorry for it maybe my writing is not so clear about my thoughts.”

 You are understood and your writing is perfectly fine.
I was going to comment on ALL of this but the thought hit me ; Only you know what is best for you. When “whats best” changes so will you. You are doing, thinking, wanting , and not wanting everything you are supposed to as well as every single individual on this planet.  We are all evolving and our mistakes change and then we make new ones. There is no right or wrong and only you are responsiple for how you act towards others and yourself and how you will feel. I am sure you know all this mumbo jumbo and I am not trying to preach. I apologise if that is what I sound like. You are on a good path and I can see its outcome from here. Have a fantastic day.

Hellllllllllooooo Owaisjee!!!! =)

Wow, you're getting alot of feedback here ;-) It's nice when people are honest, they can get honest answers, hey? ;-)

I wanted to add that if you felt cheated or that people weren't being authentic based on their profile pages….well, I really don't go by profile pages! Oh sure, it's nice to see what people write about themselves, but it's very much like the old adage about judging a book by its cover!

Don't judge people by their profile page! Dive deeper, go into their blogs and photos…see what they have to say, see where they stand =)

Okeedokee? Love you, Owais! I wouldn't want you to close yourself and your heart ;-)

Good Morning Owais!
LOL…okeedokee means “Okay” =)
In a childish sort of way, hahaha ;-)

I think the language misinterpretation is adorable, but only if we're honest enough to say we don't understand and ask for clarification =)
Have a wonderful day!